Sari Cooper, LCSW, CST

Sari CooperDirector of Center for Love and Sex
Therapist
Coach
Clinical Supervisor
Speaker

Founder and Director of Center for Love and Sex, Sari Eckler Cooper, LCSW is a licensed individual, couples and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, sex coach, writer, trainer, supervisor and media expert. She specializes in working on issues such as sexual disorders, sexual avoidance, couples communication, affairs, separation, depression, anxiety, and alternative sexual interests.

Ms. Cooper is recognized as a relationship and sexuality expert and has been a regular commentator on television shows like CBS This Morning, The Better Show and Dr. Oz to discuss relationship issues. Sari is continually called upon to discuss issues in modern relationships in the press including The Wall Street Journal, Huffington Post, Greatest, Vice, Bustle, Cosmo, Men’s Health, Shape, Brides Magazine, Barron’s, New York Post, and Marie Claire.

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

Sari holds a Masters Degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate work was completed at The Ackerman Institute for the Family and the Human Sexuality Program at the Robert Wood Johnson Medical School. Sari graduated with a BFA in dance from The Juilliard School. She has been in private practice for 20+ years in New York City. In addition to her therapy and sex coach practice, Ms. Cooper is a clinical supervisor for general and sex therapists.
While a specialist in the area of sexual issues, Sari has years of training and experience treating many psychological issues including: anxiety disorders, mood disorders, panic attacks, trauma, divorce, pre-marriage counseling, assertiveness issues, anger management, career adjustment or guidance and other diagnoses in the DSM 5 of the American Psychiatric Association.

Theoretical Orientation

Sari has been committed in her career to helping people connect more authentically in their emotional and sexual relationships. She utilizes a combination of techniques in her practice including: psychodynamic, family systems, CBT, meditation, as well as exercises she has reconfigured from her background as a professional choreographer and dancer to help individuals and couples re-start and re-create a new erotic connection.
She views the therapeutic process as an active collaborative process in which she and her clients can work towards meaningful behavioral and mood related shifts which are meaningful in their intimate, professional and communal relationships. While she view herself as an active therapist with a lot of expertise, she also values the active insights and assignments her clients bring into the therapeutic and coaching process.

Her understanding of body/mind integration, her many years of experience and continued education profoundly informs her practice. She has a direct, warm style of engagement and is an active type of therapist willing to give feedback, assignments to do at home and give advice on other professional referrals if appropriate. She has deep respect for her clients’ strengths and views therapy and coaching as a means for them to re-connect them to their best selves and to revitalize their primary relationships.

Professional Associations and Media

She is an active member of Society for Sexual Therapy and Research, Association of American Sexual Educators, Counselors and Therapists, the Ackerman Institute Alumni Association, the American Family Therapy Academy, New York State Society for Clinical Social Work, Occupational Clinical Practitioners Group as well as a founding member of the Manhattan Sex Therapy Peer Group.

She writes about sexuality on her blog Sex Esteem® on this website, as well as on Psychology Today. She is a featured blogger for Huffington Post on Divorce and Sexuality. Her published paper, Issues in Psychoanalytic Psychology is titled: Some Like It Not (about couples who struggle the problem of sexual avoidance).
Sari has given many talks, seminars and workshops for professionals at conferences on many topics including: Sexual Avoidance, Compulsivity, Affairs, Discrepant Desire, ADHD and Sexuality in long-term relationships. She also presents to the general public on how to explore new sexual avenues in long-term relationships and how to talk to children about sex, as well as how a healthy sex life improves ones work life. She was a featured speaker in “Project Respect”, an educational program of the Sex Crimes Unit at the Brooklyn District Attorney’s office on the topic of compulsivity.

She works in person at her private practice offices in Manhattan on the upper west side and in midtown of NYC. She also uses Skype or phone to coach people who live outside New York, travel frequently and who want to focus on present and future goals.

You can subscribe to her new Youtube channel Sex Esteem® with Sari Cooper- like her on Facebook:@centerforloveandsex and 
follow her on Twitter: @sari_cooper

Hours

Tuesdays
8am-8pm
300 Central Park West
Wednesdays
8am-7:30pm
300 Central Park West
Thursdays
10am-8pm
CLS Midtown

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session with Sari at 212-787-5010

Rates

$350-$450
AASECT American Family Therapy Academy American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy

Lauren, LMFT

Lauren Johnson, LMFT

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

Lauren is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and an AASECT-Certified sex therapist with many years of experience specializing in helping couples and individuals with relational and sexual challenges. She has been in private practice for over 7 years, helping couples and individuals with their relationship conflicts, psychiatric challenges and their desires for improved communication and intimacy. She specializes in treating a variety of sexual disorders/conflicts including:

  • orgasmic disorders
  • desire discrepancy
  • erectile disorder
  • premature ejaculation
  • delayed ejaculation
  • pelvic pain
  • infidelity
  • performance anxiety
  • out-of-control and/or compulsive sexual behavior
  • helping partners set better boundaries
  • past sexual trauma
  • navigating non-monogamy
  • shame regarding kink interests

She has expertise in working with clients in LGBTQ and heterosexual relationships as well as those who identify as non-monogamous, polyamorous, or engage in specific types of kink. In addition to couples and sexual issues, Lauren is skilled in working with clients who have general psychotherapy goals they want to address including:

  • work/life balance
  • family of origin stress
  • couple communication standoffs
  • Depression
  • Anxiety and Panic Disorder
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
  • ADD/ADHD
  • low self-esteem

Academic Background

Lauren earned her Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Her post-graduate training in Sex Therapy was completed at the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. She is an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist

Theoretical Orientation

Lauren’s utilizes the CLS Sex Esteem® therapeutic approach . Included in the Sex Esteem® model are the specific techniques of Family Systems, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and Hakomi techniques. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy utilizes the replacement of negative or ineffective thoughts with healthier thoughts to alter unhealthy behavior. A systemic lens aims to address client’s problems by helping them change the way their interactions cause varying consequences and patterns within a system. This system can be one with their partner/spouse, with their family of origin, their nuclear family including their children or their circle of friends. Lauren incorporates the Sex Esteem® model to help clients overcome shame, self-criticism and anxiety around their deepest erotic desires.

Each interaction is addressed in relation to habitual patterns that may have become stuck or conflictual and a systemic therapist makes interventions at helping the client(s) consciously make healthier choices to create more intimacy or functionality in these relationships.

Lauren is a collaborative therapist who works with clients’ strengths to explore the behaviors, thoughts, communication patterns, and interactional patterns that are associated with the problems presented. After a thorough initial assessment, she works with clients to clarify goals, identify resolutions to the presenting issues, followed by a wide array of interventions, home assignments and bibliotherapy to help achieve these goals. 

Lauren understands that people often find it challenging or embarrassing to discuss their sexual lives with anyone. She takes pride in providing a judgment-free space with compassion, empathy, and openness so that her clients feel safe. Lauren recognizes the diversity of each person and adapts her therapeutic techniques to the unique needs of each client/couple. Her ultimate goal for each of her clients is to provide them with tools and specific techniques to master and utilize during and after completing their work with her in therapy.   

Professional and Community Associations

Lauren is an active member of American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT).

Hours

Monday
3:15 - 7:00 PM
Merrick, Long Island 11566
Thursday
7:30-10:00 am
300 Central Park West
Thursday
3:15-5:00 pm
300 Central Park West

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session with Lauren at 212-787-5010

Rates

Fees ranging from $225-$275
AASECT American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy

Madeline, LCSW

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

Madeline is a licensed clinical social worker LCSW with experience working with individuals, families, and couples before joining CLS as an associate therapist. Madeline is committed to challenge harmful beliefs and taboos surrounding sexuality and intimacy. She creates an intentional space where her client(s)’ sexual health, erotic pleasure and mental health are addressed with the same deep respect and care as a person’s physical wellbeing. This approach is part of the Sex Esteem® model which includes a bio-psycho-spiritual-social assessment and treatment plan.

Her areas of specialty include:

  • Low desire
  • Discrepant desire within a couple
  • Sexual Pain (Vulvodynia, Dyspareunia, Genito-Pelvic Pain or Penetration Disorder (Sexual Pain Disorder, Vaginismus)
  • Erectile Disorder
  • Premature or Rapid Ejaculation
  • Delayed Ejaculation
  • Performance anxiety
  • Couples suffering from a breakdown in communication
  • Infidelity (hookups, long term affairs, cheating with sex workers)
  • Out of Control Sexual Behavior with porn, sex workers or strangers
  • LGBTQ individuals exploring gender identity and sexual orientation
  • Navigating non-monogamy
  • Polyamorous Relationships
  • Kink interests that challenge individuals and/or couples/ partners
  • Sexual Trauma Recovery (Childhood Sexual Abuse, Rape, Boundary Crossings, Sexual Harassment)
  • Infertility induced Sexual Issues for Couples
  • Post-Labor Sexual Issues (pain with intercourse, low/no libido)
  • Perimenopause and Menopause related Sexual Problems (Low Libido, Painful Intercourse)

In addition to sexual and intimacy related issues, Madeline treats clients with a wide range of general psychotherapy issues, including:

  • Familial Stressors and Boundary-related issues
  • ADHD, Executive Functioning Issues
  • Autism Spectrum Disorder
  • Clinical Depression
  • Low Self-Esteem
  • Generalized Anxiety Disorder
  • Panic Disorder
  • Social Anxiety and Agoraphobia
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Academic Background

Madeline received her M.S.W. at Columbia University. She is currently in post-graduate training in the Sexual Health Sex Therapy Program at University of Michigan. Madeline has specialized training in Trauma-Focused CBT (TF-CBT) to help guide her work with individuals with PTSD, in addition to CBT for general anxiety related issues.

Theoretical Orientation

Madeline ensures that each client feels their therapy sessions are conducted in a non-judgmental atmosphere, aware that many clients have experienced internal and perhaps external shaming for their desires and beliefs. She is supportive, empathic as well as active in each session, opting to challenge patterns that are not helping the couple or individuals and offering new lenses and techniques to address the disorders and/or habits that are causing them distress. Clients have remarked on how connected they feel in sessions with her and how her advice and interventions made critical differences in their lives. Madeline utilizes a strengths-based approach to support a client/couple’s autonomy and guides them to create new relational habits and at times pursue medical treatment in order to live a more most authentic relationship.

Madeleine utilizes the Sex Esteem® model by providing education, therapeutic tools and readings/video resources when needed. Rather than using one method with all clients, CLS uses an integrative approach designed specifically for each client/couple’s needs. Included in the Sex Esteem® model are the specific techniques of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and Hakomi. In the initial assessment period, all CLS therapists explore how cultural, religious and familial experiences helped to shape a client’s beliefs about sexuality, relationship dynamics, thought patterns, and behavioral patterns. Through re-framing thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, clients and couples can alter their lives in exquisitely meaningful ways. Specific home exercises are offered to clients to practice between sessions based on clients’ therapy goals.

Professional and Community Associations

Madeline is an active member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).

Hours

Tuesday AM
7:00-9:30
West 86th Street
Tuesday PM
4:00-9:00
West 86th Street
Friday AM
7:00-9:30
300 Central Park West

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session at 212-787-5010

Rates

Fees ranging from $200-$250
AASECT

Kathleen, LMFT

Kathleen

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

Kathleen is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) with years of experience working with individuals, couples, and families in a variety of physical, emotional, and relational challenges. Kathleen started her career working for nonprofit agencies that helped a variety of rural, urban, and suburban  populations. She specializes in treating a variety of sexual challenges such as: 

  • Low desire / discrepant desire
  • Hyper/compulsive sexual behaviors
  • Infidelity/Affairs
  • Sexual Trauma Recovery
  • Sexual Pain
  • Orgasmic disorders 
  • Erectile Dysfunction
  • Premature and Delayed Ejaculation
  • Stress of Infertility on sexuality
  • Performance anxiety
  • Perimenopause and Menopausal transitions

Populations:
LGBTQIA+: Provide exploration/transitional support for individuals and families. 
Polyamorous Relationships
Non-Monogamous Couples
Folks in the Kink/BDSM/Swinging Lifestyle

In addition to these sexual related challenges, Kathleen treats clients with a wide range of general psychotherapy issues including:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety (generalized and social)
  • Addiction/Recovery
  • ADHD, Executive functioning challenges
  • Borderline Personality Disorder 
  • Bipolar Disorder
  • Co-dependency 
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Complex PTSD
  • Pre-marital Counseling
  • Family of Origin Relational Trauma  
  • Family Life Cycle Transitions
  •      

  • Adoption and Foster Care Support

Academic Background

Kathleen earned her Master’s in Family Therapy from Thomas Jefferson University with a specialization for Sex Therapy.  Kathleen is currently enrolled in post-graduate training at the Ackerman Institute for the Family to continue her passion for learning and involvement with Systemic Family Therapy.

Theoretical Orientation

Kathleen values the therapeutic relationship with her clients and has an empathetic, humanistic approach while working collaboratively in achieving one’s personal and relational goals.  

Kathleen’s therapeutic approach is integrative as she pulls techniques and perspectives from a variety of systemic treatment approaches. Kathleen is culturally competent and adapts her approach to the diverse needs of each client, couple, and family. She utilizes an Intersystems Approach to fully understand her clients’ complexity (systems: biological, psychological, inter-relational, family of origin, culture) and how these systems dovetail with their presenting problem.  Kathleen aims to create self-awareness, openness and acceptance of one’s being while providing support and guidance for clients’ desired growth.

Professional and Community Associations

Kathleen is an active member of  The American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) and the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).  

Hours

Monday
7:15 -10:00 AM
300 CPW
Monday
4:00 - 9:00 PM
300 CPW
Saturday
9:00AM - 3:00 PM
300 CPW

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session at 212-787-5010

Rates

Fees ranging from $200-$250
American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy AASECT

Kristin, LMFT

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

Kristin is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with many years of experience working with individuals, couples and families in private practice and outpatient agencies. She provides sex therapy to both individuals and couples with specific sexual disorders interfering with their functioning and relationships. She is focused on helping clients and couples improve their communication skills while providing them with information on their attachment styles which are both strengths and contribute to conflicts in their intimate relationships. She has a strong background in addiction, helping clients moderate their use of alcohol or other substances in addition to compulsive behaviors like gambling, spending and out-of-control sexual behaviors.

Kristin facilitates sessions in which stigma, embarrassment and shame regarding a client’s or couples’ erotic interests and sexual practices are addressed and decreased through education and clinical techniques. Kristin also has a strong background in working with adults from a spectrum of cultural, religious, economic backgrounds in addition to people who are from the LGBTQ+ community. She works with people who have practices or interests in kink, polyamory, and other consensual non-monogamous lifestyles.

Some of the primary sexual disorders and conflicts Kristin addresses include:

  • Performance anxiety interfering with sexual functioning
  • Pelvic pain (GPPPD)
  • Erectile Disorder
  • Anorgasmia
  • Compulsive or Out of control sexual behavior (online and/or with partners)
  • Attachment and communications conflicts in relationships
  • Desire discrepancy
  • Vaginismus
  • Delayed sexual behavior (prolonged virginity)
  • Premature (or Uncontrolled) Ejaculation
  • Delayed Ejaculation
  • Infidelity and Affairs (past or recent)
  • Boundary Setting (in new or ongoing relationships)
  • Past sexual trauma (including boundary crossings, childhood sexual abuse and sexual harassment)
  • Navigating non-monogamy agreements
  • LGBTQ+ issues including identity, dating, and relationship conflicts
  • helping clients navigating their interests in kink, BDSM, swinging and other alternative lifestyles

In addition to sexual and intimacy related issues, Kristin treats addresses a range of general psychotherapy issues, including:
marital & couples counseling

  • low self-esteem
  • Substance use disorders
  • Behavioral process disorders (shopping, gambling, etc.)
  • Anxiety and Panic Disorder (including Social Anxiety)
  • Depression
  • Major life-stage transitions (Moving in together, getting engaged, pre-marital counseling, separation, job loss, divorce, loss of a relative)
  • Existential challenges (decision around work/life balance, having a child, moving to another location)
  • Unresolved and/or ongoing Family of Origin conflicts
  • Recovery from past complex trauma
  • Parenting coaching

Academic Background

Kristin holds a MA in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University and did her post-graduate training in Family Systems Therapy at The Ackerman Institute for the Family. She is certified in Integrative Harm Reduction Psychotherapy. Kristin received her BA from Barnard College of Columbia University.

Theoretical Orientation

Kristin uses the CLS Sex Esteem® approach to treatment which combines techniques from: Family Systems, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), Motivational Interviewing (MI), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Imago and Hakomi traditions of treatment. 

Her clinical style is collaborative, curious and mindful. She creates a safe, non-judgmental space for each client’s individual process to unfold, and one of her core beliefs is that it is crucial to start therapy where a person or couple is, whether they are coping with ambivalence around sexuality / sexual issues, their relationship, attachment challenges or compulsive behavior challenges. She gets that discussing one’s sex life can be deeply awkward, embarrassing and painful at times given our culture’s negative beliefs and people’s personal background stories.

In treatment, Kristin joins a client in the exploration, discovery and recovery that takes place in therapy and builds trust, safety, through a collaborative process. She emphasizes building upon each person’s innate strengths while helping them understand their relational patterns that may contribute to their distress, anxiety and suffering. Each treatment plan is tailored to the needs of each client or couple and their stated goals for their relationship, health, and work/life balance plan.

Professional and Community Associations

Kristin is an active member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) the Women’s Association of Addiction Treatment (WAAT) and the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).

Hours

Thursday
5:00 - 9:00 PM
CLS CPW office
Friday PM
4:00 - 9:00 PM
CLS CPW office
Sunday AM-PM
9:00 - 1:00
CLS CPW office

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session at 212-787-5010

Rates

Fees ranging from $200-$225
AASECT American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy WAAT