Sari Cooper, LCSW, CST

Sari CooperDirector of Center for Love and Sex
Therapist
Coach
Clinical Supervisor
Speaker

Founder and Director of Center for Love and Sex, Sari Eckler Cooper, LCSW is a licensed individual, couples and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, sex coach, writer, trainer, supervisor and media expert. She specializes in working on issues such as sexual disorders, sexual avoidance, couples communication, affairs, separation, depression, anxiety, and alternative sexual interests.

Ms. Cooper is recognized as a relationship and sexuality expert and has been a regular commentator on television shows like CBS This Morning, The Better Show and Dr. Oz to discuss relationship issues. Sari is continually called upon to discuss issues in modern relationships in the press including The Wall Street Journal, Huffington Post, Greatest, Vice, Bustle, Cosmo, Men’s Health, Shape, Brides Magazine, Barron’s, New York Post, and Marie Claire.

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

Sari holds a Masters Degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate work was completed at The Ackerman Institute for the Family and the Human Sexuality Program at the Robert Wood Johnson Medical School. Sari graduated with a BFA in dance from The Juilliard School. She has been in private practice for 20+ years in New York City. In addition to her therapy and sex coach practice, Ms. Cooper is a clinical supervisor for general and sex therapists.
While a specialist in the area of sexual issues, Sari has years of training and experience treating many psychological issues including: anxiety disorders, mood disorders, panic attacks, trauma, divorce, pre-marriage counseling, assertiveness issues, anger management, career adjustment or guidance and other diagnoses in the DSM 5 of the American Psychiatric Association.

Theoretical Orientation

Sari has been committed in her career to helping people connect more authentically in their emotional and sexual relationships. She utilizes a combination of techniques in her practice including: psychodynamic, family systems, CBT, meditation, as well as exercises she has reconfigured from her background as a professional choreographer and dancer to help individuals and couples re-start and re-create a new erotic connection.
She views the therapeutic process as an active collaborative process in which she and her clients can work towards meaningful behavioral and mood related shifts which are meaningful in their intimate, professional and communal relationships. While she view herself as an active therapist with a lot of expertise, she also values the active insights and assignments her clients bring into the therapeutic and coaching process.

Her understanding of body/mind integration, her many years of experience and continued education profoundly informs her practice. She has a direct, warm style of engagement and is an active type of therapist willing to give feedback, assignments to do at home and give advice on other professional referrals if appropriate. She has deep respect for her clients’ strengths and views therapy and coaching as a means for them to re-connect them to their best selves and to revitalize their primary relationships.

Professional Associations and Media

She is an active member of Society for Sexual Therapy and Research, Association of American Sexual Educators, Counselors and Therapists, the Ackerman Institute Alumni Association, the American Family Therapy Academy, New York State Society for Clinical Social Work, Occupational Clinical Practitioners Group as well as a founding member of the Manhattan Sex Therapy Peer Group.

She writes about sexuality on her blog Sex Esteem® on this website, as well as on Psychology Today. She is a featured blogger for Huffington Post on Divorce and Sexuality. Her published paper, Issues in Psychoanalytic Psychology is titled: Some Like It Not (about couples who struggle the problem of sexual avoidance).
Sari has given many talks, seminars and workshops for professionals at conferences on many topics including: Sexual Avoidance, Compulsivity, Affairs, Discrepant Desire, ADHD and Sexuality in long-term relationships. She also presents to the general public on how to explore new sexual avenues in long-term relationships and how to talk to children about sex, as well as how a healthy sex life improves ones work life. She was a featured speaker in “Project Respect”, an educational program of the Sex Crimes Unit at the Brooklyn District Attorney’s office on the topic of compulsivity.

She works in person at her private practice offices in Manhattan on the upper west side and in midtown of NYC. She also uses Skype or phone to coach people who live outside New York, travel frequently and who want to focus on present and future goals.

You can subscribe to her new Youtube channel Sex Esteem® with Sari Cooper- like her on Facebook:@centerforloveandsex and 
follow her on Twitter: @sari_cooper

Hours

Tuesdays
8am-8pm
300 Central Park West
Wednesdays
8am-7:30pm
300 Central Park West
Thursdays
10am-8pm
CLS Midtown

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session with Sari at 212-787-5010

Rates

$450-$475
AASECT American Family Therapy Academy American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy

April, LMFT

April

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

April is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) with many years of experience helping individuals and couples resolve their relational and sex therapy challenges. April has unique expertise having worked extensively with clients and partners from diverse cultural, religious and socioeconomic backgrounds. She is passionate about helping individuals and couples to grow in their intimate relationships at all stages of their relationships. She’s aware that folks need help in the early phase of establishing their relational boundaries and expectations regarding monogamy and communication skills. She’s also sensitive to the fact that many couples run into periods of sexual stagnation in their life together whether it’s around marriage, birth of a child, or after many years into a committed relationship. April uses the Sex Esteem® method to help each partner bolster and gain more nuanced communication skills to express their erotic needs in a way that their partner can hear them less defensively. She is helps her clients grow towards the goals they’ve set for themselves.

April specializes in treating a variety of sexual disorders, along with intimacy and relationship challenges including:

  • low/absent desire
  • sexuality throughout the lifespan
  • infidelity/affairs
  • modern dating and coupling
  • erectile disorder (ED)
  • performance anxiety
  • discrepant desire (each partner has very different needs for the other)
  • premature (rapid) and delayed ejaculation (DE)
  • compulsive sexual behaviors
  • self-esteem and body image related concerns
  • orgasmic disorders
  • relational concerns (communication and boundary issues)
  • sexual health assessment
  • performance anxiety
  • sensuous spirituality
  • sexual pain or Genito Pelvic Penetrative Pain Disorder (GPPPD)
  • past emotional trauma
  • past sexual assault, childhood abuse and/or boundary crossings that interferes with current sex life

Communities:

  • Traditional Coupling
  • Folks from religious and or strict backgrounds (Orthodox Jewish, Mormon, Evangelical Christian, Catholic, Muslim, Hinduism, and those that may have been raised in a unique community)
  • Vanilla Interests
  • Polyamory
  • Consensual Non-Monogamy
  • LGBTQIA+
  • Kink/BDSM (Lifestyle) interests

In addition to sexual and intimacy related issues, April has many years of clinical expertise treating clients with a range of general psychotherapy issues, including:

  • Anxiety and Panic Disorders
  • Depression
  • ADHD, Executive Functioning Issues
  • Anger and Stress Management
  • Pre-marital Counseling
  • Family of Origin Relational Trauma
  • Navigation through Family Life Cycle
  • Foster Care and Adoption Support
  • Contemporary Issues in Gender and Ethnicity
  • post-separation & divorce co-parenting
  • loss and bereavement

Academic Background

April earned her Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy from Seton Hall University. After working with individuals and couples for several years, April witnessed how significant growth in her clients’ sexual lives improved their individual mental health and their relationship vitality. She expanded her sex therapy expertise graduating from The Post-Graduate Systemic Sex Therapy Program at The Council for Relationships in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Theoretical Orientation

April’s goal is to create a safe, accepting and comfortable environment for her clients, which sets the table for growth, self-awareness and self-acceptance within the individual. She utilizes the CLS Sex Esteem® therapeutic approach which is bio-psychosocial model looking through multi-lenses affecting one’s sexual development and beliefs. Included in the Sex Esteem® treatment are the specific techniques of:

  • Couples Systemic Therapy
  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Psychodynamic Psychotherapy
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)
  • Hakomi techniques

She is dedicated to working with clients from a holistic perspective exploring the different systems which have affected her clients, while also considering the client’s personal make-up (family of origin, gender, race/ethnicity, religion, etc.) when collaborating on their personal and relational goals.
April’s therapeutic stance is one of collaboration and integration as she utilizes evidence-based techniques and interventions that are associated with a wide menu of systemic perspectives. This approach allows her to be culturally competent and thorough in her biopsychosocial assessment of her client and will ultimately help to ensure that the interventions, home assignments and questions asked are curated to the specific needs and interests of her client. She respects the daily complexities that each of her clients face as they make conscious choices to strengthen themselves and their relationships. April believes that supporting and encouraging clients’ innate strengths, they can jointly collaborate to set goals to not only gain insight but to also make meaningful changes to transform their lives.

Professional and Community Associations

April is an active member of The American Association for the Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) and the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).

Hours

Tuesday
5:00 - 8:30 PM
West 86th Street
Thursday
6:00 - 9:00 PM
Central Park West
Sunday
10:00 AM - 1:00 PM
Central Park West

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session with April at 212-787-5010

Rates

Fee $250-$275
American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy AASECT

Marsha, LCSW

Marsha

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

Marsha is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker LCSW-R with over 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples and families with a wide variety of presenting issues including sexual problems. She prizes a warm therapeutic presence with clients and couples when treating sexual issues because she appreciates how sensitive this area is for most folks. Marsha uses the Sex Esteem® model of assessment and treatment, which allows for understanding the specific problem from a bio-psychosocial lens. She has worked within private practice and many agency settings where she assisted couples and families improve communication skills to create lasting positive life changes.

 
Marsha treats clients with a wide range of sexual disorders and general psychotherapy issues including:

  • Sexual Pain, GPPPD (Genito-Pelvic-Penetrative-Pain Disorder)
  • Discrepant Desire (partners having differing sexual needs)
  • Erectile Disorder
  • Rapid or Premature Ejaculation
  • Out of Control Sexual Behaviors (including use of porn, escorts, massage parlors, strip clubs)
  • Infidelity Recovery (long-term affairs, hook-ups, escorts)
  • Pre-Marital Counseling
  • Couples counseling
  • Post-Birth Adjustment (loss of desire, less frequent sexual connection)
  • Generalized Anxiety Disorder 
  • Social Anxiety
  • Agoraphobia 
  • Depression 
  • History of Sexual Trauma (childhood abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment)
  • Phobia
  • Post-Menopausal difficulties
  • Family of Origin Stressors
  • Geriatric Issues and Caregiver Stress
  • Counseling for Children and Elderly

Academic Background

Marsha received her MSW at SUNY Stonybrook and completed her post-graduate certification at Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy. She is also qualified by the state as a Supervisor of Social Workers. In addition to her experience treating sexual issues she is highly trained in treating disordered eating, body shame, and eating disorders having graduated from the esteemed Psychotherapy Training Program at The Center for Study of Anorexia and Bulimia. She has extensive experience treating phobias having been the Director of a phobia clinic utilizing Cognitive Behavioral Techniques.

Marsha has the distinction as Fellow of the Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy, a type of psychotherapy that focuses upon the individual and couple’s experience in the present moment, the therapist–client relationship, the environmental and social contexts of a person’s life, and the self-regulating adjustments people make as a result of their overall situation.

Theoretical Orientation

Marsha commences treatment with a non-judgmental intention, since she knows how many people come to their sexual life with a history of internalized shame for their desires and beliefs. She is uses her warm and grounded Gestalt-influenced style of therapy to begin the CLS 5-6 week assessment, reflect back her take on the problems and goals presented and collaborate on a course of treatment. Clients say that Marsha creates a safe space within which they can unpack the challenges that have at times been there for years. She focuses on clients/couples’ strengths to encourage authentic change and educates them on new skills, research and understanding to learn new patterns of communication. Marsha will at times refer clients to affiliated treatment providers (gynecologist, urologist, psychiatrist, or pelvic floor physical therapist) when a more holistic form of treatment is warranted.

Marsha utilizes the Sex Esteem® model by providing education, therapeutic tools and readings/video resources when needed. Rather than using one method with all clients, CLS uses an integrative approach designed specifically for each client/couple’s needs. Included in the Sex Esteem® model are the specific techniques of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and Hakomi. In the initial assessment period, all CLS therapists explore how cultural, religious and familial experiences helped to shape a client’s beliefs about sexuality, relationship dynamics, thought patterns, and behavioral patterns. Through re-framing thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, clients and couples can alter their lives in exquisitely meaningful ways. Specific home exercises are offered to clients to practice between sessions based on clients’ therapy goals.

Professional and Community Associations

Cape Cod Institute- Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D.
Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Marsha proudly assists new immigrants to improve communication through her affiliation with The English Speaking Union of the United States.

Hours

Thursday
7:00 - 9:00 am
CLS Office
Thursday
4:00 - 8:30 PM
CLS Office
Friday
4:00 - 8:30 PM
CLS Office

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session at (914) 719-6919

Rates

225-250

Heather, LCSW

Heather

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

Heather is an independently licensed clinical social worker with over a decade of experience helping individual clients and couples work towards personalized goals to improve and enhance their sexual communication and pleasure. She brings honed expertise in dealing with specific issues like addiction, trauma, and PTSD caused by sexual assault and abuse. Heather has helped those folks who are dating navigate the challenging discussions around STIs, types of sexual play they are into, and monogamy and consensual non-monogamy. She uses the Sex Esteem® biopsychosocial model to assess how a couple’s stage of development impacts the issue they want to address. Whether it’s a time when a couple are discussing moving in together, have become engaged, adjusting to a new child or have been together for years and are struggling with low libido or lack of sexual connection.

This model also draws on specific experiences from a client’s racial, religious, cultural, economic and familial history to better understand the impact on how they feel about their own sexuality and sexual identity. Heather’s style is warm, connected and she creates a calm but purposeful space in her sessions. At times when she feels it’s helpful and healing she brings humor into a session in order to help a client feel less self-conscious or frustrated with the challenge they’re working on. She prides herself on creating a safe therapeutic environment for clients to realize personal strengths. She is passionate about collaborating with clients in dealing with sexual challenges such as: 

  • Hyper/compulsive sexual behaviors (Out of Control Sexual Behaviors)
  • Low or Absent Desire
  • Discrepant Desire (partners wanted different frequency or type of sexuality)
  • Recovery from Infidelity, Cheating and Affairs
  • Erectile Disorder (ED)
  • Sober sex and sexuality
  • How to discuss safer sex practices
  • Sexual Pain (vaginal, pelvic pain disorders)
  • Post labor recovery and adjustment
  • Sexual Trauma Recovery (from childhood abuse, sexual assault, rape)
  • Premature or Uncontrolled Ejaculation (PE)
  • Delayed Ejaculation (DE)
  • Stress of Infertility on sexuality
  • Social anxiety
  • Family of Origin Stressors
  • Performance anxiety
  • Phobias
  • Peri-menopausal, menopausal and post-menopausal challenges (pain, absent desire, sense of loss)

Communities:

  • heterosexual individuals and couples
  • LGBTQIA identified
  • Consensual Non-Monogamous
  • Polyamorous
  • Kink/BDSM/Lifestyle
  • Folks from religious backgrounds (Hinduism, Evangelical Christian, Orthodox Jewish, Mormon, Muslim and Catholic)
  • clients raised in unique strict upbringings

In addition to these sexual related challenges, Heather treats clients with a wide range of general psychotherapy issues including:

  • Addiction/Recovery
  • Depression
  • Panic Disorder
  • Trauma
  • Anxiety (Generalized and Social)
  • Bipolar Disorder
  • Co-dependency
  • Grief, Loss and Bereavement
  • PTSD
  • HIV/AIDS
  • COVID-19 related anxiety and/or health concerns

Academic Background

Heather earned her Master’s Degree in an accelerated social work program at NYU with a concentration in substance abuse. She has worked with individuals, couples and families for many years helping them achieve a more fulfilling life. She holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology with a minor in Statistics from Boston University.

Theoretical Orientation

Heather values Cognitive Behavioral Techniques to help address and change attitudes and actions by focusing on crippling thoughts.  She uses Sex Esteem® Sex Therapy interventions in sessions and homework assignments between sessions to help couples continue the progress made in sessions. She values Cognitive Behavioral Techniques to help address and change attitudes and actions by focusing on crippling thoughts.  

Heather is an experienced practitioner of the harm reduction model where clients are encouraged to work towards decreasing negative consequences of behaviors like compulsive behaviors, over-drinking, etc. Additionally, she follows a strength based and solution- focused model to assist clients working towards meaningful goals.

Heather is a culturally competent therapist with an interactive, dynamic style ensuring that clients are recognized and understood in the context of the many systems of which they are part. This includes the skills, strengths and insights garnered through their lifetimes in addition to the challenges, inequities and stereotypes faced. She has a collaborative approach to therapy and jointly sets goals for treatment with her clients.

Professional and Community Associations

Heather is an active member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.

Hours

Monday
5:00 - 9:00 PM
Central Park West
Tuesday
5:00– 9:00 PM
Central Park West
Saturday
11:00 AM - 3:00 PM
Central Park West

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session with Heather at 212-787-5010

Rates

Fee $250
AASECT

Kelly, LMSW

Kelly

Qualifications and Areas of Practice

Kelly is a psychotherapist with several years of experience helping individuals, couples and groups with various challenges to reach their goals through individually tailored psychotherapy. She is a sex-positive sex therapist who strives to help clients bring sexual and erotic pleasure back into their lives through a collaborative therapeutic approach. Her areas of expertise include sexual disorders, LGBTQAI issues, addiction, trauma, and psychiatric disorders. She has helped many individuals and couples through treatment using an intersectional lenses including familial, community, racial, cultural, religious, medical and societal contributions to a person’s sexual script. She helps clients navigate difficult conversations with partners regarding physical touch, emotional intimacy, compulsivity, substance addiction, sexual disorders, and erotic desires. Kelly’s priority is to create a safe, comfortable, and intentional space for clients in her sessions. She aims to achieve this through compassion, connection, and authenticity. Kelly believes that the therapeutic relationship is the foundation to client(s)’ growth. 

Kelly treats clients with a wide range of sexual disorders and general psychotherapy issues including:

  • Sexual Pain, Vulvodynia, GPPPD (Genito-Pelvic-Penetrative-Pain Disorder)
  • Discrepant Desire (partners having differing sexual needs)
  • Erectile Disorder
  • Rapid or Premature Ejaculation
  • Compulsive Sexual Behaviors 
  • Infidelity Recovery (long-term affairs, hook-ups, escorts)
  • Couples counseling
  • Emotional intimacy
  • Sexual Trauma (Childhood Sexual Abuse, Sexual Assault, Boundary Crossings)
  • Sexuality throughout the lifespan
  • Sober sexuality
  • how to discuss safer sex practices
  • dating concerns
  • HIV/AIDS
  • Self-esteem and body image related concerns
  • Addiction/Recovery
  • Family of Origin Stressors

Communities:

  • LGBTQIA identified
  • Heterosexual individuals and couples
  • Clients raised in strict religious (Muslim, Christian, Orthodox Judaism)or unique communities (cults)
  • Consensual Non-Monogamous Clients
  • Polyamorous
  • Kink/BDSM/Lifestyle

In addition to these sexual related challenges, Kelly treats clients with a wide range of general psychotherapy issues including:

  • Addiction/Recovery
  • Depression
  • Panic Disorder
  • Trauma
  • Anxiety (Generalized and Social)
  • Bipolar Disorder
  • Co-dependency
  • Grief, Loss and Bereavement
  • PTSD
  • HIV/AIDS
  • COVID-19 related anxiety and/or health concerns

Academic Background

Kelly earned her Master’s Degree in Social Work with a focus on trauma informed care and human rights at the University at Buffalo. She has worked with individuals, families, and children for many years to help them heal, transform, and live fulfilling lives. She earned her Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration from D’Youville College.

Theoretical Orientation

Kelly values a holistic and collaborative approach to treatment and has a warm, connected, and direct style of therapy. She uses an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy framework through a trauma informed lens to help clients align their attitudes, thoughts and actions with their core values leading to a fulfilling life rooted in authenticity. Kelly also uses attachment interventions to help clients become more aware of their relationship styles and to heal their relationships. She is a culturally aware and curious clinician who strives to learn more about each client’s experience of the world and how their racial, religious and/or sexual identity contributes to their resilience, strengths and/or challenges in their life.

She is experienced in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, Mindfulness, and Motivational Interviewing. 

Professional and Community Associations

Kelly is an active member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.

Hours

Monday
5:00 - 8:30 PM
Zoom
Tuesday
5:00 - 8:30 PM
Zoom
Saturday
10:00AM - 2:00PM
Zoom

Contact

Call intake coordinator for session with Kelly at

Rates

Fee $250
AASECT